We get constant questions about what marriage is really like. Below, we answer some of the most common ones we get, and look back on our first year.
What has surprised you the most?
C: How easy marriage can be.
J: I second that. If someone is telling you marriage is hard, they probably mean their marriage is hard.
What’s the worst part about living together?
C: Sometimes Jessica watches Teen Mom on the only TV we have.
J: Cory is a control freak about dishes. He washes dishes before putting them in the dish washer. Don’t get me wrong, I completely appreciate him doing housework. But he’s a dishes Nazi. I use paper plates and utensils just to avoid his wrath.
What’s the best part about being married?
C: Having my best friend with me 24/7
J: Agreed. We do everything together. Workout, shower, eat, talk a walk, study, TV, everything. It never gets old.
Is marriage really as tough as everyone makes it out to seem?
C: It can be if you let it. They key is to never stop having fun.
J: In short, no. If you’re making humor and honesty a daily practice, marriage is cake. It’s when you neglect those things that you become resentful of one another, which is the root of all marital evil, I think.
So who cooks?
C: The lady at Panda Express (I’m not sure what her name is)
J: Pizza Hut.
Does marriage make you fat?
C: It hasn’t yet!
J: Marriage looks better on Cory than bachin’ did. He drinks a lot less beer these days. Plus I’m always hounding him about his blood pressure.
What’s the biggest difference in dating vs. marriage?
C: If you have an issue, you have to resolve it. You can’t just hide your problems.
J: Logistics. When you’re dating it’s all about the romance, but when you’re married it’s also about who left the wet laundry in the washer, taking out the trash and how much money you put in savings last paycheck.
What expectations did you enter marriage with?
C: I expected it to be a lot harder than it is.
J: I expected to get overwhelmed by being together all the time. We’ve never lived in the same zip code, and all of a sudden we were in a one bedroom apartment together.
Were those expectations fulfilled?
C: Not at all.
J: No. The transition was seamless.
What’s your favorite memory from the first year?
C: All the trips we’ve taken together. (Frio, CO, Austin, etc.)
J: Making breakfast for dinner. Cory wanted to impress me and would flip a pancake in the air but it fell on the floor…twice. We haven’t made breakfast for dinner since but the memory still makes me laugh.
How has marriage changed your relationship?
C: We’ve gotten a lot closer for sure. We’ve dated for 6 years now but I’ve learned more about her in the last year than the previous 5.
J: We depend on each other more, versus depending on our parents. Emotionally, that’s huge. We’ve emotionally cut the umbilical cord.
What is the hardest part about marriage?
C: Learning that it’s not just about you anymore. Financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually, etc.
J: For me, surprisingly, it has been cutting that cord with my parents. When something happened at work I would call my Dad instead of calling Cory, then I would later tell Cory he just didn’t understand or know what was going on. He said, “Jess, that’s because you don’t let me understand or give me the chance to find out.” So that was a big learning experience: that Cory & I can always rise to the occasion and the only people stopping us is us. It’s just about taking that responsibility.